Tips To Keep You From The Dark Side
Anger leads to the Dark Side. Do you find yourself fuming when there aren’t wards placed in the perfect spot? Does your blood pressure go through the roof jungle refuses to cooperate? Anger is a normal and even healthy emotion — but it’s important to deal with it in a positive way.
Rize Up Gaming is going to give you a few tips to help control your anger in all games when it happens.
Take a break and breathe
While you are waiting to respawn, take a moment and just breathe. You are playing a game that you enjoy because you have fun. Keep that in mind… its only a game and you are there to have fun.
Once you’re calm, express your anger
As soon as you’re thinking clearly, express your frustration in an assertive but non-confrontational way. State your concerns and needs clearly and directly, without hurting others or trying to control them.
Let go of control
You can’t control how another person plays a game. The only things you can is control your reaction to it. The best thing you can do in a game where newer players aren’t performing up to your expectations is to not have any. Do not have expectations and you won’t be disappointed. At some point you were new and didn’t know what to do in the game either. Remember that and try to give constructive feedback to your team.
Think before you speak
In the heat of the moment, it’s easy to say something you’ll later regret. Take a few moments to collect your thoughts before saying anything — and allow others involved in the situation to do the same.
Don’t hold a grudge
We’ve all been in games where you do something wrong on accident and another player keeps bringing it up all game. This creates a increasingly toxic environment throughout the duration of the game. Forgiveness is a powerful tool. If you allow anger and other negative feelings to crowd out positive feelings, you might find yourself swallowed up by your own bitterness or sense of injustice. But if you can forgive someone who angered you, you might both learn from the situation. It’s unrealistic to expect everyone to behave exactly as you want at all times.
Know when to seek help
Learning to control anger is a challenge for everyone at times. Consider seeking help for anger issues if your anger seems out of control, causes you to do things you regret or hurts those around you. You might explore local anger management classes or anger management counseling. With professional help, you can:
- Learn what anger is
- Identify what triggers your anger
- Recognize signs that you’re becoming angry
- Learn to respond to frustration and anger in a controlled, healthy way
- Explore underlying feelings, such as sadness or depression
Anger management classes and counseling can be done individually, with your partner or other family members, or in a group. Request a referral from your doctor to a counselor specializing in anger management, or ask family members, friends or other contacts for recommendations. Your health insurer, employee assistance program (EAP), clergy, or state or local agencies also might offer recommendations.